Dating/relationship
  • npeanutnpeanut March 2010
    Posts: 595
    so here comes the noobish thread. let me start by saying im usually a very open and extravert person, and i dont usually come off as shy to people due to my extravert nature. However, even though i have no problem talking to girls or being around them, i can be very shy when it comes to make the first serious move(opening and maintaining convo is easy, but sealing the deal with a make out/asking for date is harder for me). For example im seeing this girl often now and there is clearly interest on both sides, however i have no clue how to take it from a flirty friendship to a relationship. in other relationships its just fallen into place but for some reason this one seems complicated to me.

    what are some tricks you guys use to get past this first move thing, and girls what do you think is an appropriate move for a guy to make if he wants to hook up with u

    let me clarify by first move i do NOT mean going up to girls and talking/ flirting because i seem to be a whiz at that. its actually the first physical move that im talking about.
  • TomTom March 2010
    Posts: 1,869
    you and I are opposite sides of the same coin, friend.
  • TheMightyPeonTheMightyPeon March 2010
    Posts: 5,752
    i just club them over the head and drag em by the hair back to my cave.
  • ceoceo March 2010
    Posts: 3,175
    do it. if she reacts positively (and she will judging by your boyishly good looks) then youre in the clear, if she doesnt then hope she doesnt press charges
  • LemonLemon March 2010
    Posts: 3,002
    I haven't been in a relationship for well over a year now.
    There is no god.
  • shoshoneshoshone March 2010
    Posts: 1,279
    Currently, i'm kind of in the same boat as you Peanut. I guess me and this girl will just talk more and i'll flirt with her more, maybe throw in a sexually charged compliment or something.
  • npeanutnpeanut March 2010
    Posts: 595
    the thing is my inflated ego would never recover from getting rejected.

    which i know is the #1 thing to get over and im working on that already
  • hfswjyrhfswjyr March 2010
    Posts: 3,317
    http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_eP-TQH6WbX0/R0Jvvd_HCpI/AAAAAAAAAbU/sA1dx9771mY/s320/Barney%2BStinson.bmp

    or

    http://trueslant.com/matthewgreenberg/files/2009/10/TheOffice_Andy.png

    Your choice.
  • AdamAdam March 2010
    Posts: 1,374
    Drink a lot of alcohol
  • shoshoneshoshone March 2010
    Posts: 1,279
    Yea, I don't think anyone likes being rejected, but you got to take that chance. If you do get rejected, the next time you're in a similar situation, it won't be as bad, its like everything, the more you do it, the better you become. I too am working on that. I just hope I haven't touched the "friend zone" with this girl, she's pretty cool.
  • ceoceo March 2010
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    just when youve hoped that its already too late
  • The+Dunwich+HorrorThe Dunwich Horror March 2010
    Posts: 6,863
    welcome to the friend zone
  • TheMightyPeonTheMightyPeon March 2010
    Posts: 5,752
    if you ever get in the friend zone, pull back and become an acquaintance.
  • CazCaz March 2010
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    just man up and tell her how you feel. or you can go back to not being close to any females
  • The+Dunwich+HorrorThe Dunwich Horror March 2010
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    Copypasta'd from Caz:just man up and tell her how you feel. and you can go back to not being close to any females
  • 3+Ball+Wonder3 Ball Wonder March 2010
    Posts: 3,266

    Fuck that noise. I never date a girl if they don't take the initiative and make the first move.

    Maybe thats why i always get a finger up the ass...

  • TheMightyPeonTheMightyPeon March 2010
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    lmfao
  • 3+Ball+Wonder3 Ball Wonder March 2010
    Posts: 3,266

    But seriously, i haven't gone out with a girl who hasn't asked me out.

  • LemonLemon March 2010
    Posts: 3,002
    I've never gone out with a guy who couldn't grow a pair of balls in order to ask me out.
  • RouterJesusRouterJesus March 2010
    Posts: 1,141
    Copypasta'd from npeanut:the thing is my inflated ego would never recover from getting rejected.

    which i know is the #1 thing to get over and im working on that already


    Harden the fuck up. She either wants to or she doesn't. If she doesn't then she obviously will say no and it will stay at friends. If you want insurance grab a small gift or some flowers and ask. Your ego has nothing to do with it. You just don't want to get turned down for the feelings she doesn't express the same as you though more or less you don't have any control over it as it is fate and their own choice. If you don't think she expresses the same feelings for you yet and it is a matter of time, then wait until she does and then ask.

    Copypasta'd from 3 Ball Wonder:Fuck that noise. I never date a girl if they don't take the initiative and make the first move.

    Maybe thats why i always get a finger up the ass...


    I would call your girl a guy. Is "her" name Larry?
  • Bryce March 2010
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    You should say, "Let's kiss now" and if she smiles, you kiss her.
  • LemonLemon March 2010
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    There aught to be more men like you, Bryce.
  • TomTom March 2010
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    ^using that on friday.
  • CazCaz March 2010
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    LEMON DIGS BRYCE, LEMON DIGS BRYCE!!!!

    lemon and bryce sitting in a tree
  • daTokenizerdaTokenizer March 2010
    Posts: 555
    >rcp /mnt (pronounced "R-C-P-slash-M-N-T")

    legit: now seriously, that was the first thing that popd into my head... I need some time off.. :(

    edit: minor typo
  • Eterna1Eterna1 March 2010
    Posts: 2,562
    Copypasta'd from RaptorJesus:
    Copypasta'd from npeanut:the thing is my inflated ego would never recover from getting rejected.

    which i know is the #1 thing to get over and im working on that already


    Harden the fuck up. She either wants to or she doesn't. If she doesn't then she obviously will say no and it will stay at friends. If you want insurance grab a small gift or some flowers and ask. Your ego has nothing to do with it. You just don't want to get turned down for the feelings she doesn't express the same as you though more or less you don't have any control over it as it is fate and their own choice. If you don't think she expresses the same feelings for you yet and it is a matter of time, then wait until she does and then ask.


    I'm against the flower idea because I assume you want her honest answer, and don't want her to feel bad if she ends up rejecting you. I'm aware flowers and similar stuff is common practice, but I don't like the idea. Plus it's corny as fuck.

    I think you'll be able to tell if you should go for it. Do you guys really hit it off? Is it clear that she likes spending time with you? Whenever I like a girl, I make hanging out with her one of my top priorities. I'm sure everyone of both sexes is like this.
  • daTokenizerdaTokenizer March 2010
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    1up, Eterna1
  • TomTom March 2010
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    Copypasta'd from Bryce:You should say, "Let's kiss now" and if she smiles, you kiss her.


    great success!
  • Eterna1Eterna1 March 2010
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    Haha epic
  • fully+aquatic+turtlefully aquatic turtle March 2010
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    Lol that worked?

  • TomTom March 2010
    Posts: 1,869
    yep. the bitch cut my lip though.
  • hfswjyrhfswjyr March 2010
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    WITH A KNIFE.
  • LemonLemon March 2010
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    Copypasta'd from Tom:yep. the bitch cut my lip though.


    Wait what?
  • BlazeBlaze March 2010
    Posts: 3,232
    Copypasta'd from Bryce:You should say, "Let's kiss now" and if she smiles, you kiss her.


    That's basically what I did with Jill.

    I've always just asked the girl out or in physical things just started exploring with my hands until and if they started playing defense. Then if they started playing defense I would be like "are you sure you want me to stop?" and then they would stop playing defense.
  • TomTom March 2010
    Posts: 1,869
    Copypasta'd from Lemon:
    Copypasta'd from Tom:yep. the bitch cut my lip though.


    Wait what?


    She was a biter.
  • The+Cheshire+CatThe Cheshire Cat March 2010
    Posts: 3,693
    was?
  • hfswjyrhfswjyr March 2010
    Posts: 3,317
    she?
  • %28the%29Zulu(the)Zulu March 2010
    Posts: 1,696
    you should stop kissing bitches then. dog fucking is unacceptable.
  • TomTom March 2010
    Posts: 1,869
    at least they're loyal.
  • The+Dunwich+HorrorThe Dunwich Horror March 2010
    Posts: 6,863
    yeah, if you're cesar millan
  • RouterJesusRouterJesus March 2010
    Posts: 1,141
    Copypasta'd from Eterna1:
    Copypasta'd from RaptorJesus:
    Copypasta'd from npeanut:the thing is my inflated ego would never recover from getting rejected.

    which i know is the #1 thing to get over and im working on that already


    Harden the fuck up. She either wants to or she doesn't. If she doesn't then she obviously will say no and it will stay at friends. If you want insurance grab a small gift or some flowers and ask. Your ego has nothing to do with it. You just don't want to get turned down for the feelings she doesn't express the same as you though more or less you don't have any control over it as it is fate and their own choice. If you don't think she expresses the same feelings for you yet and it is a matter of time, then wait until she does and then ask.


    I'm against the flower idea because I assume you want her honest answer, and don't want her to feel bad if she ends up rejecting you. I'm aware flowers and similar stuff is common practice, but I don't like the idea. Plus it's corny as fuck.

    I think you'll be able to tell if you should go for it. Do you guys really hit it off? Is it clear that she likes spending time with you? Whenever I like a girl, I make hanging out with her one of my top priorities. I'm sure everyone of both sexes is like this.


    Flowers don't create illusions of answers. They mainly just make them reconsider their own feelings for 10 seconds because half the time women don't know what the fuck they feel to begin with. It is corny as fuck though.
  • TPOETPOE April 2010
    Posts: 292
    Copypasta'd from TheMightyPeon:lmfao


    I'm gonna cum all over you
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